Hello beautiful people,
Just getting back into blogging again. I have been writing although I've been gone for so long. I won't be writing a long paragraph to explain my disappearance, but I would say that I will be more consistent in my updates from now on.
So what have I been up to you might ask? I've been doing a lot of thinking, improving and habit building (will post soon about this in detail). Part of what I have been working on has been my written communication. This will be an avenue for me to nurture and grow in this area. I would love to thank you all in advance for your support and encouragement. I pray these contents would be of some value to you.
Today, I would like to talk about life and the seasons of life we might find ourselves in. There are three main seasons. It's only safe to start off by saying it can be far too easy to compare ourselves to the next person be it our friends, family or even that random person on Instagram. The main thing I am getting at is that everyone's journey is different, everyone's timing is different, everyone is in a different season, frame of mind and therefore it is too hash for us to feel down when we see others at a point in their life that is also where we'd like to be. Rather than feeling down, it is better to celebrate with them! The bible says, when others are happy, we should be happy with them
(Romans 12:15). Aside from that not everything on social media is the full reality, we only see what others want us to see, meaning that we don't always get to see the dark moments in peoples life.
Now that that's out of the way, let's dive into the three main seasons we find ourselves in life.
The Waiting Season
Life isn't black and white, we don't just experience joy and sadness. We experience uncertainty, change along with other similar emotions. In this season its easy to be anxious due to life and its uncertainties. Accept the seasons you might find yourself in, seeing what lessons could be learnt see how to grow from it and how to leave as a better stronger self.
I currently would say I'm in the waiting season. It isn't always easy but I'm using this slow season as a time to learn, heal and grow. My advice would be not to waste too much time on Netflix or YouTube but rather reading, learning about the mind, our world, about ourselves and becoming mindful of our actions.
The Painful Season
The next season is the painful season. This is typically a dark time for most. This is when all those things normally just hit: you lose your job, you lose a family member, things are going left and everything else in between.
Being in this season does not mean we give up and finish ourselves mentally. No, but it is the time to be mindful, watch, pray, rejoice (hardest thing to do when things are going left) and to do the good things that make you happy. It might not be easy to see at first, but there is always a way out!
In the painful season, it is the most crucial time to hold on tight, these are rocky times. In times like this, I lean even more on God, believing in a power bigger than mine, believing in his promise over my life and giving thanks for the things he has done so far. There is a famous quote I love by Roy Bennett that says, “Be grateful for what you already have while you pursue your goals. If you aren’t grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more.” It is okay to actively express your disappointment, anger and frustrations towards a situation as this means you are aware of the issue at hand. At this phase (believe it or not) things start to change , it is how we transform those feelings into action working for a better tomorrow. Devise a coping strategy along the way.
This is not a dead sentence, its only for a short term. Surround yourself with positive people, seeking counselling, prayer assistance from your local church would help. Exercising, selfcare, eating a balanced whole food plant based diet could also help to feel better internally. For instance, a new hobby I find keeps me busy and eases my mind is running.
Remember it is okay to grieve, don't feel like you have to be put on a front 24/7. It is completely natural to respond naturally to difficult things. This will help you in not exploding due to bottled up feelings and emotions. Be open and honest with yourself, that is the only way to truly grow and heal.
The Plentiful Season
Right this is the one. Would it not be amazing to be in this season all day, everyday, all year... forever? Of course most of us would love that.
In this season, everything is good, we are healthy, happy and thriving. With that been said, it is easy to be inconsiderate of others that are in pain or are down. You can actually feel guilty of what you have work for and been blessed with.
We all generally experience life through our own lens, in our own shoes. In the midst of blessings, abundance and joy it is natural to fall out of touch with the realities of pain and suffering. I believe that in the Season of Plenty, it is actually the time to share, giving to others. For example, through hospitality and generosity, reaching out to others who are struggling, volunteering, giving out value.
The Plentiful season clothes you with more. More: joy, energy, blessings, and radiance. More than you need for yourself. Share with others! You feel good you can make an impact to someone's life, the dopamine and endorphins you get? Boy oh boy.
I must mention this... Please and please DO NOT feel guilty when you are experiencing this season. Instead, allow yourself to enjoy, celebrate, give and remain grateful for all things. Enjoy the greatness, share memories and moments with loved ones, laugh and live life to the fullest.
I pray that whatever season you might find yourselves, you will find a way to grow, connect and transform in God.